Tuesday, September 30, 2008

UPDATED: I'm in the Army now

Army Specialist Dustin Chalker is a brave man. In the military since 2002, he was deployed to Iraq, where he was awarded the Combat Medic Badge and the Purple Heart.

Spc. Chalker is also an atheist. Upon returning to the States last year, he was required to attend a barbecue and a couple ceremonies at which Christian prayers were read. He's now suing the Department of Defense, alleging that his treatment was part of a larger pattern and practice of imposing religion upon unwilling unbelievers. One of the examples set forth in the complaint is Strong Bonds, a pre-deployment and post-deployment family wellness and marriage training program. Paragraph 13(j)(3) alleges that among the offending materials distributed by the program during a retreat earlier this year was the following:

"The Thrill of the Chaste," by Dawn Eden. The author is described on the back cover as "Jewish-born" and throughout the book as a "former agnostic Jew." The book describes in detail how she led a highly promiscuous and drug abusing lifestyle until she had a "born again experience" and "realized for the first time . . . that [Jesus] as truly God's son." The book is filled (almost every page) with Bible verses and with the author proselytizing Christianity. [A Chaplain] recommended the book multiple times during the training.
Although I am not an actual defendant in the lawsuit, I do hereby plead guilty to most of the charges. However, I never engaged in drug abuse and thus my book does not allude to, much less "detail" such behavior. I pray that Spc. Chalker, as a conscientious member of the reality-based community, will bring this error to the attention of his lawyers and absolve me of that particular sin.

And may God bless him for his service to this country.

UPDATE, 7:23 p.m.: My prayer has been answered. Spc. Chalker wrote to me this afternoon apologizing for the error and assuring me that it will be corrected.

A representative from the organization that is co-plaintiff in his lawsuit has also apologized in the comments section of this post. He notes that Spc. Chalker did not personally complain about my book; the complaint was made by another soldier and was tacked onto his class-actions suit. However, he does not promise a correction, writing only that he will "find out why" the complainant cited drug abuse in my book.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Quote of the day

"Sexuality, then, as part of our human nature only dignifies and liberates us when we begin to love in harmony with God’s love and God’s wisdom for us. Chastity as a virtue is the path that brings us to that harmony with God’s wisdom and love. Chastity moves us beyond one’s desire to what God wills for each one of us. Chastity is love’s journey on the path of 'ascent, renunciation, purification and healing.' Chastity is the understanding that it is not all about me or about us. We act always under God’s gaze. Desire tempered and tested by 'renunciation, purification, and healing' can lead us to God’s design.

"This is true for all of us. It is also true for men and women who are homosexual. We are called to live and love in a manner that brings us into respectful, chaste relationships with one another and an intimate relationship with God. We should be an instrument of God’s love for one another. Let me be clear here. Sexual intercourse, outside of the marriage covenant between a man and a woman, can be alluring and intoxicating but it will not lead to that liberating journey of true self-discovery and an authentic discovery of God. For that reason, it is sinful. ...

"Marriage is also not the sole domain of love as some of the politics would seem to imply. Love is lived and celebrated in so many ways that can lead to a wholesome, earnest, and religious life: the deep and chaste love of committed friends, the untiring love of committed religious and clergy, the profound and charitable bonds among the members of a Christian community, enduring, forgiving, and supportive love among family members. Should we dismiss or demean the human and spiritual significance of these lives given in love?"

— Coadjutor Bishop Jaime Soto of Sacramento, from his stunning (and, for many attendees, shocking) keynote speech to the conference of National Association of Catholic Diocesan Lesbian and Gay Ministries. Read the full text of his speech and California Catholic's account of how it was received. (Via LifeSiteNews.)

RELATED: Courage is an apostolate loyal to the Magisterium that ministers to Catholics who experience same-sex attraction.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Quote of the day

"After we came out of the church, we stood talking for some time together of Bishop Berkeley's ingenious sophistry to prove the nonexistence of matter, and that every thing in the universe is merely ideal. I observed, that though we are satisfied his doctrine is not true, it is impossible to refute it. I never shall forget the alacrity with which Johnson answered, striking his foot with mighty force against a large stone, till he rebounded from it -- 'I refute it thus.'"

— James BoswellLife of Johnson (via the Samuel Johnson Sound Bite Page)

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Luminous mystery

From author David Hewson, a lovely visual treat for your Sunday. I do hope to peer through Rome's most famous keyhole in person one day.

Quote of the day

"When parents achieve a mastery of themselves and not just their physical environments, this lesson too is not lost on their children. Self-mastery, like endurance, is a behavior which is incontrovertibly personal. It cannot be done to someone from the outside. But, when there are examples of it around us, we tend to pick up on it and make it our own. Thus, there is a generational impact. The children of self-mastering parents -- who become self-mastering adults themselves -- are then more likely to possess healthy attitudes for confronting problems and dilemmas, and are less likely to resort to ... socially harmful conduct."

— Rev. Msgr. Robert Batule on why parents who wish their children to learn chastity ought to demonstrate it in their own marriage, from his essay "Humanae Vitae the Nexus of Personal and Social Morality." Read the whole piece.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Giddy 'uns' bible
Talking about The Thrill with  Jillian Bandes

In which Washington wit Jillian Bandes of Culture11 sits me down for a chat at a Georgetown coffee shop and a splendid time is had by all. Make sure you stay tuned for the outtakes at the end.



The half-hour interview also covered more sober ground, but was ultimately edited to show Jillian's and my lighter side. Even so, it would be honest to say that, after a day of studying among seminarians, the opportunity for girl talk had me in estrogen-fueled high spirits.

There is one spot early on in the interview that could use some context—it's the part when I refer to some popular books on Christian courtship. I was speaking about how some authors, in trying to warn against certain behaviors, go to great lengths to describe them. I tried consciously to avoid that when referring to my past life in The Thrill of the Chaste, aiming to be stark but not graphic.

As a result of having avoided detailing a Technicolor list of "don'ts," the top question I get when I speak on campuses is one I never broached in the book—"How far is too far?" (Answer: Go for affection, not arousal. And, of course, look to The Thrill's subtitle.)

Many thanks to Jillian and director John Scanlon (a noted documentary filmmaker) for profiling me for Culture11, a thought-provoking new site edited by Evangelical Outpost blogger Joe Carter.

The inclusion of the outtakes remind of the similar device used in this oldie but goodie, "Chastity Rome-Chick Blues," shot in a photographer's studio at the New York Daily News.



Buy my book, The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On, from Amazon.com.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

For all the saints
A guest post by JUNE ARCHER

An interesting thing happened in a 9th grade Confirmation class I taught recently.

In the second class of a ten-week curriculum, I handed out a book about the saints to each student. I asked them look through it and to choose a saint whom they admired—perhaps taking that saint’s name as their own on Confirmation day. What happened next was the interesting part. The following week, ninety percent of the class had read the book from cover to cover, had chosen a saint, and wanted to know more. In fact, some their friends from other Confirmation classes down the hall came in and asked if they too could have a book of saints to read.

In short, they ate it up.

Here was something they had never heard of—real people who lived ordinary lives, had done extraordinary things for God and neighbor, and had gained heaven. Some were older people, some were priests and nuns, and some were even their own age! It was as though a light bulb had been turned on, and I would venture to say that the saints and their stories struck a chord with those teenagers more than any other point I made in that ten-week period.

Whatever happened to the saints? As a child, they were a basic part of my Catholic education, and they fascinated me. As an adult, they fascinate me still. During the past 20 years or so of religious education, however, it seem the saints and their stories have either been relegated to the background or eliminated altogether as irrelevant in the course of our daily lives.

But in our world where heroes are absent or only too human, we need the example of these very human saints to show us how to gain heaven in spite of our own faults and failings. Thomas Merton once wrote, “The saints quickly become stereotyped in the mind of the average Christian … essentially an image without the slightest moral flaw" (Life and Holiness, 1963). And while the legendary status of some saints finds us hard pressed to find a flaw, nevertheless it is the humanity of all the saints in their struggle for sanctity that draws us to them.

Consider some the better-known saints. Joan of Arc lived the life of a simple shepherdess until the age of 17 when her heavenly Voices commanded that she save her beloved France from the hands of the English. Unable to read or write, with no knowledge of warfare or even how to ride a horse, Joan led an army against England and defeated them in every battle. Convinced of the divinity of her mission, she boldly faced kings, bishops and judges to carry out her commands—finally paying for her loyalty with her life at the stake. Should I mention that she was only 19 at the time of her death and still could not read or write?

In contrast, consider gentle Joseph, earthly father and protector of God made Man and of the Blessed Mother. While not called to shine on the world stage, he faced agonizing questions about the will of God in his lifetime. Despite his doubts about the propriety of an impending marriage to an expectant fiancée, he obeyed without question God’s loving direction to take Mary into his home as his wife. He obeyed again when instructed by an angelic messenger to flee with his wife and Child to safety in Egypt. What must have been the reaction of friends and family in these instances to the decisions Joseph made as head of the Holy Family? Despite his upright reputation in the community, he must have faced questions and even ridicule. Joseph’s life as a carpenter in Nazareth was one of skill and service, but more and more he became aware of the marvelous gift bestowed on him by God. He died in obscurity but found glory in heaven where he would await the death and rising of Our Lord and the Assumption of his equally obedient spouse.

In order to truly appreciate the importance of the saints in our lives, we must believe in our own worth as children of God. We must believe that heaven is our ultimate goal and that attaining it is a full-time pursuit—not something we do in our spare time.

Is it possible, as sinners all, to even hope for success in our pursuit? We need only to look to the saints to realize that you and I are not the first to struggle, fall, and stand up again. We take heart in the story of Peter, that very real, very human, very boisterous fisherman. Who was it that swore he would stand by Our Lord always, failed miserably to do so in Our Lord’s ultimate hour of need, and wept bitterly at his failure? Yet to whom did Our Lord entrust the keys to the kingdom of heaven; whom did he proclaim as the rock on which his Church would be built? Our hope stems from the humanity of Peter with which we readily identify. Our Lord did not choose that stereotypical saint of folded hands and eyes heavenward that Thomas Merton describes. Instead, He chose someone who, despite his best intentions for the Lord, just couldn’t get it right time and time again. Yet Peter’s sanctity came out of his very real love of the Lord that made him try again and again.

Why is it that certain saints appeal to our hearts more than others? The simple answer is that our favorites reveal a struggle similar to our own. Each saint presents a different pathway to heaven. God provides us with the ultimate “road map” to heaven in the life Our Lord, but he provides road maps in the lives of each of the saints as well. By virtue of their uniquely individual struggles, the saints also serve us by way of their intercession before God. Often misunderstood, the intercession of the saints can provide relief from the daunting task of appealing directly to the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. While Our Lord was the ultimate saint in His human nature, He was like us in all things but sin—a very big “but.” If sin is the stumbling stone, we can look to the saints and their stumbling stones to guide us along the way. (In some cases, they even provide us with their example of appealing to a saint who has gone before them.) In the saints, God takes the opportunity to spread the wealth, as it were—to pass His loving kindness through those who are “specialists” in our particular needs and to present those needs to Him.

Consider Maximilian Kolbe who gave his life in a concentration camp in order to save a fellow prisoner. Consider Mary Magdalene, who sought Our Lord in her sinfulness, who followed Him to the Cross, and who became the Apostle to the Apostles—the first to see the risen Lord on Easter morning. Consider Paul, once known as Saul, who persecuted the Church of Christ with all the strength he possessed, only to become the possession of its Holy Founder. Consider Martha, that wonderful domestic saint who couldn’t reconcile her sister’s contemplative lifestyle with her own overly busy list of chores. Consider Stephen, whose martyrdom celebrated on the heels of Christmas stands in violent contrast to the peace of the Lord’s birth. Consider Clare, who ran away from home and an impending marriage to follow Francis in a life of poverty and humility. For that matter, consider Francis, who preceded her, giving up wealth and comfort to serve God as a humble peasant.

While we may not be called upon to leave our families, face an army, or give up our lives in martyrdom, we are called to show the world how to strive for holiness in our earthly life with an eye toward heaven. What a powerful example the saints provide!

There are saints we read about in books and hold in our hearts – and there are saints we simply hold in our hearts. The saints who have gone before us in the persons of our fathers, our mothers, brothers and sisters, grandparents and friends—while not canonized by the Church—stand before the throne of God as well, interceding for us in our needs. In order to find heroes in our lifetime, we need only to look to those people who have passed through our own lives. They were, in most cases, ordinary people who spent their lives doing the best they could for God, even if they didn’t realize it themselves. They struggled, they fell, they got up again. Relegated to the background? Irrelevant? Hardly. When they left us, God gave them the ultimate reward. As His lesser-known saints, they also merited the chance to help us in our daily struggle to do the best for God—and to hope in joining their ranks one day as well.

Not too long after my students discovered the saints, one of my fellow teachers approached me and said she didn’t think she was going to teach her students about them. She admitted she’d never been sure why the saints were important, and told me she felt uncomfortable even telling her students about them. How sad. In the course of her own religious education, someone had failed to convey to this woman one of the most captivating and inspirational aspects of the faith. In depriving her students of the lives of the saints, she missed a golden opportunity to demonstrate the promptings of the Holy Spirit in the lives of these holy men and women—the very same Holy Spirit who would be prompting her students in the near future on Confirmation day.

The fortitude of Elizabeth Seton and Frances Xavier Cabrini; the modesty and courage of Maria Goretti; the piety of Isidore the farmer and Gabriel of Our Lady of Sorrows; the generosity of Martin of Tours; the kindness of Elizabeth of Hungary and John Vianney; the gentleness of Therese of Lisieux; the faithfulness of John the Evangelist. In the saints, my Confirmation students were able to recognize in concrete ways the gifts and fruits of the Holy Spirit they were preparing to receive.

Taking the example of the saints, they could look at their surroundings and find instances of those gifts and fruits (or lack thereof) in their daily lives. They could begin to recognize the unique talents and virtues that God had bestowed on them and how He was calling them to put those talents to work. They could also see the difficulties they might face in bringing the Lord’s message to a world that often does not want to hear it. My students now knew that they could strive to make a difference in the world—it was the saints who helped them to realize that.

What a shame it would have been if they’d never heard of them.

The above article by June Archer first appeared in Homiletic and Pastoral Review in June 1999. Reprinted with the author's permission.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Sainted love

Someone recently asked me who I thought should be upheld as the patron saint of purity.

My answer was, "All of them."

I think the need some people feel to isolate certain saints as icons of chastity reveals the mistake, encouraged by our culture, of seeing such purity only in terms of resisting sexual temptation. But, rightly understood, chastity, as G.K. Chesterton wrote, "does not mean abstention from sexual wrong; it means something flaming, like Joan of Arc."

Living—or, rather, loving—chastely means loving fully according to the manner that is appropriate to each individual relationship. The "yes" to loving chastely does include a "no" to engaging in sex outside of the marriage bond. But to believe that only through sex could one love and be loved fully—that would be terribly limiting and sad. The saints' lives, by contrast, were and are infused with joy.

So, I find it odd when people suggest we need to point to a particular saint as a model of pure living. Certainly, I can gain inspiration from the stories of saints who struggled with and overcame the temptation to use or be used sexually, such as AugustineMary of Egypt, and Mary Magdalene. To single out a patron saint of purity, however, implies the saint was an "expert" in loving chastely, the way that Paul was an expert in tent-making or Cecelia an expert in music.

The beauty of chastity is that it is not an ability, but a grace. It does not get us into heaven. It is the leading edge of heaven.

Monday, September 15, 2008

Abortion survivor: 'If Barack Obama had his way, I wouldn’t be here'

Gianna Jessen, who survived an attempted saline abortion, made a compelling appearance on "Hannity and Colmes" last night to discuss Sen. Barack Obama's votes against the Illinois Born Alive Infants Protection Act.



The interview comes in the wake of Jessen's appearance in the debut TV ad by BornAliveTruth.org.



In a straightforward and truthful manner, this ad hits Obama in his most vulnerable spot. Most Americans would be shocked if they knew the lengths to which he went to protect the livelihood of abortionists over the lives of babies outside the womb. Visit Jill Stanek's blog for updates on BornAliveTruth.org and the media's reaction to it. My friend Thomas Peters at American Papist is also tracking this topic and has a post with commentary on the Jessen ad.

RELATED: If you know Christians who are wrestling with their conscience over the issue of how to cast their vote, Priests for Life have an excellent guide called "Voting with a Clear Conscience," available in a Catholic version as well as an interdenominational version.


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Following this post, I am returning my focus to my graduate studies and do not plan to blog again until at least this coming weekend. Thanks to all those readers whose prayers have helped me to reach this joyful time of my life.

Monday, September 8, 2008

September songs

One sunny Saturday afternoon in August 1981, my Grandma Jessie drove me to the Livingston Mall to buy me a dress and shoes for my bat mitzvah the following month.

Of course, they had to be blue—my favorite color.

I chose an ankle-length, short-sleeved dress of patterned Indian cotton that was primarily a muted, cadet-blue shade, and Famolare-style sandals to match. It was a daringly hippie look for a temple service, even for a liberal Reform congregation such as mine, but my very understanding grandmother (a Cornell drama grad who was quite the bohemian in her time) was happy to buy me something that made me feel pretty. And it was a pretty look, the dress flowing and feminine; today I would call it Marian.

Grandma's gift came to mind Sunday as I prayed the Sanctus at Mass yesterday. Time telescoped for a moment and I thought of the moment at my bat mitzvah, twenty-seven years ago this Thursday, as the congregation prayed the Kedushah, the central prayer of the Shabbat service—"Kadosh, Kadosh, Kadosh... Holy, Holy, Holy, the Lord of Hosts, the whole world is filled with His glory."

At that same moment, I remembered that a year after my bat mitzvah, to the day, my grandmother passed away. Around this time would be her yahrzeit, the lunar anniversary of her death. Jews are obligated to pray on loved ones' yarhzeits. Although I felt my grandmother to be in heaven, I prayed for her at that moment of the Mass, knowing that, if she were already enjoying the presence of the Lord, she would pass the graces on to those in need of them.

My bat mitzvah was a sort of last hurrah for the Jewish spirituality that had played a role in my childhood. It shouldn't have been, but, for many reasons, it was.

What I am experiencing today, as a first-semester, full-time M.A. theology student at the Pontifical Faculty of the Immaculate Conception at the Dominican House of Studies, given back the years the locust has eaten. Like time stopped and restarted with me put where I was supposed to be all along.

Twenty-seven years ago this week, I chanted in Hebrew the words of Isaiah 54: " Sing, O barren, thou that didst not bear, break forth into singing, and cry aloud, thou that didst not travail; for more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married wife, saith the LORD. ... "

Today, I can say that anyone who has been helped by my book is one of my "children." Better still, I now have the opportunity to become a better "mom" through the inspiration of studying under and with others practicing spiritual parenthood, including, among my classmates, many future priests—men who, with God's help, will be spiritual fathers to thousands.

As Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen was fond of saying, God can write straight with crooked lines. I thank Him for doing so with me, and pray that this pen will realize that His grace is sufficient to prevent its ever again rebelling against its Author. In praying this, it gives me strength to remember how St. Maximilian, faced with trials immeasurably harder than anything I have experienced, asked Our Lady for aid, and so could say with confidence, "the Immaculata is helping me."



"My heart is inditing"—Handel, performed by the Holland Boys Choir

Thank you for your prayers as I continue to focus on my studies. I hope to resist blogging again until at least the weekend after next.

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How do you solve a problem like Maria?

UPDATE, 7/27/12: Problem solved. Read what I learned about the Church's true teachings on virgin martyrs.

Jill at Feministe discovers St. Maria Goretti via an item I posted, and asserts the Church's motivation in canonizing her was to tell the women of the world, "Better to die than to survive rape."

Granted, Jill's other writings make it clear she is prone to view Church teachings in an unsympathetic light. But, in the case of St. Maria, I believe the opinion she expresses is shared by many reasonable people, including some Catholics. As I have written, that is why I am uncomfortable with the promotion of St. Maria as a role model for teens—because the message of her martyrdom may be so easily misinterpreted. And it doesn't help when well-meaning defenders of her cult infer, as did one of my commenters, that failure to resist a violent rapist is "a mortal sin."

As a Catholic, I believe St. Maria Goretti is a saint—end of story. But, as an apologist, I have too much on my plate with grad school to do the research and contemplation I would need in order to go to the mat for her as a patron saint of purity. (That she is a model of forgiveness is unquestionable and a far easier point to defend.) So, I hope to learn from what you have to say about why the Church and, by extension, Catholic organizations, specifically cite her as a model of chastity—one whose witness, like that of all the saints, is intended to teach us how to grow in holiness. If you would like to join the discussion, leave a comment at Feministe or my previous blog entry.

Comments closed; leave a comment at the above-linked entries.

Saturday, September 6, 2008

Many thanks to those who have wished me a happy birthday and who have celebrated my birthday with me this week. I hope to publish some photos tomorrow from my birthday celebrations (both of them!) and to write an update on my studies, which continue to be a joy.

Here is what I wrote on yesterday's quiz on the past and future tenses of "sum." Don't ask why I got "estis" wrong (if you must know, I was confusing it with the French—one really shouldn't think too hard about these things):

sum, es, est, sumus, estes*, sunt
erō, eris, erit, erimus, eritis, erunt

We were told to study the imperfect as well, but it turned out not to be on the quiz. I would have written:

eram, erās, erat, erāmus, erātis, erant

*Should have written "estis."

Quote of the day

"[T]he single most important narrative holding the left together in today's politics and culture is the one offered--often with little or no dissent--by adversarial feminism. The premise of this narrative is that for women to achieve dignity and self-fulfillment in modern society, they must distance themselves, not necessarily from men or marriage or childbearing, but from the kind of marriage in which a mother's temptation to be with and enjoy several children becomes a synonym for holding women back and cheating them out of professional success.

"... The simple fact of [Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin's] being a pro-life married mother of five with a thriving political career was--before anything else about her was known--enough for the left and its outliers to target her for destruction. She could not be allowed to contradict symbolically one of the central narratives of the left."

— Jeffrey Bell in the Weekly Standard"Why They Hate Her"

Thanks to Kevin Walsh for the tip.

Horne on Hanna

The lovely Lena has the forecast for my Washington neighborhood this weekend.